Alisha ( @Alisha ) has his #liveyourlife You guys, we're gonna heal. We've all lost people we thought we couldn't live without. Maybe they left this earth, or maybe they just left our lives. We have all felt the ache of wanting someone who was just no longer there. . . In those first days and weeks and months, that emptiness is all we can see. It fills up all the spaces that used to be crowded with normal, everyday things. The loss demands our attention, like a frustrated child, screaming for us to focus on nothing else. Slowly, we start to heal. We find tiny moments of peace, of goodness, of hope. And then, just when we think we might be ok after all, it happens. A song, a scent, a photo slips in and tears us apart all over again. We crumble. We break. But still, we heal. . . Burying emotions doesn't kill them, it just lets them grow out of sight, tangling up with all of your other hidden emotions, until one day they erupt like an angry volcano. Hurts don't go away unless we give them space to heal. . . Right now, it might seem like the person or people leaving is destroying you. You're thinking of all of the other losses: the conversations you never had, the things you didn't have time to teach one another, the places you'll never visit together. It can all feel so overwhelmingly sad. . . But there's goodness there, too. There's the things you learned, maybe some that you didn't want to learn, that will help you as you move through life. There are sweet memories, perfect moments that you can look to as proof that happiness is a real thing. The people who we have held in our hearts can never really leave us. They are always there, like fingerprints, and that's a lovely thing. It's proof that we loved well. Its a reminder that we can love all the stories, even the ones that don't have a happy ending. . . I promise you that you will heal. Maybe in teeny tiny little steps, and maybe over the course of years or even a lifetime. But you will heal. This hurt will always be a part of your story, but it doesn't have to be the end of your story. . . . . .